A few years ago, one of my wisest friends, Himnit (known on social media by the name of Misstickled) had shared with me a pictorial message. It went something like –
“If someone tells me the sky looks green, I do not oppose or counter them. I do not need to agree with them either. I need not show them the “proof” that I’m right. I say to myself that to some people, the sky looks green. It keeps external conflicts from disturbing my inner peace. Isn’t that where world peace begins? With each of us being peaceful?“
Years and countless arguments later, I have come to understand this incredible life saving and enhancing skill. I label it as the practice of defencelessness. It means that I do not oppose the current of life. I do not go against the present moment.
It works not just with people but also life situations. Accepting things as they are is not a weakness as one may assume it to be. Instead, it is intelligent action. Why? Because unless you accept a situation as it is, you cannot do much about it, can you?
Navigating Your Way Through Myriads of Opinions
We live in a politically charged environment – especially if you live in metros where it’s fashionable to have opinions even about things we do not fully understand. There is a reason for that as well. We feel the need belong. It’s how we’ve evolved and survived as a species. So, nothing wrong, frankly.
The problem arises when opinions become commandments, and an opposite view to our own becomes intolerable. In such times, remembering the little message I share in the first paragraph of this article becomes exceptionally relevant.
All of us want to belong and also be right. Sadly, sometimes we are so obsessed with being right that it can come at dismantling and crumbling another person’s thoughts. I came across a fantastic quote today, which I shared on my business page.
” Be kind first, be right later.”
Let’s Agree to Disagree
I am guilty of being a part of and promoting many such righteous ideas in the past. Though, as I focus less on the body and more on the spirit, the less attracted I get to drama, conflicts and the need to be right.
Hey, it’s okay if you have an opinion that counters my belief.
Because you are a unique individual whose thoughts, your environment and situations have shaped ideas and life view. I have had my situations to develop my world view. Being rigid is only a sign of death; Death of growth and indeed life.
I still hold the desire to prove a point, to be right. But, I am actively trying to choose kindness over proving someone wrong. Facts do not shift someone’s viewpoint though your friendship and kindness might make them see your perspective as well.
I hope that if someone (it can also be you) now tries to get into an argument about an opinion, you may remember: to some people, the sky looks green.
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